Whatif…. Leadership wasn’t JUST about power?
If you listen to people who talk about wanting to be leaders, more often than not, they’re really talking about seeking power. They want a role or position that gives them status, authority, and control over others.
I’m not disparaging this perspective—seeking power and status is a natural human inclination. But leadership doesn’t have to be just about power.
Whatif, instead, leadership meant something different?
What if wanting to be a leader meant striving to be a person of integrity, modeling the behaviors you hope to inspire in others? What if it meant developing greater self-awareness and emotional intelligence, improving your decision-making, and building more trusting and understanding relationships?
At its core, the most powerful form of leadership is built on these skills. And here’s the irony: even if you never hold a formal position of power, these qualities will likely make others recognize you as a leader anyway. When you embody them, people naturally grant you influence and respect—often more so than they do to someone with an official title.
The Difference Between Organizational Leadership and Everyday Leadership
When you hold a formal leadership position, you face challenges that others don’t. Organizational leadership—the act of leading from a position of power—requires additional skills, such as navigating politics, making strategic decisions, and balancing the weight of responsibility.
But leadership doesn’t begin when you get a title. In fact, formal authority can sometimes disrupt the process of leadership development. The old adage that "power corrupts" exists for a reason—status can cloud judgment, insulate people from honest feedback, and make it harder to remain grounded.
That’s why Everyday Leadership is crucial. Everyday Leadership isn’t about a title; it’s about becoming the kind of person who others trust, respect, and want to follow—whether or not you’re in charge.
You don’t suddenly develop integrity, emotional regulation, or strong decision-making skills once you get promoted. These qualities must be built over time, through consistent effort and practice.
Leadership is Accessible to Everyone
Here’s the good news: leadership is something anyone can develop, no matter their role.
Character development is available to everyone. You don’t need permission, a job title, or a specific opportunity to grow as a leader. Anyone can start working on these skills today.
Resources for growth are everywhere. Every aspect of your life offers opportunities to develop leadership virtues—whether it’s handling conflict at work, responding to challenges at home, or reflecting on decisions you’ve made. Books, podcasts, and even pop culture can provide insights into leadership (think of how certain movies or TV shows depict strong character and ethical dilemmas).
Developing character improves all aspects of life. Leadership isn’t just about work—it’s about becoming a better friend, family member, and community member. Strengthening your self-awareness, decision-making, and ability to build trust will enhance your well-being in every domain.
Where to Start
So, how do you begin developing as a leader?
Pick one area to focus on. Maybe you want to make better decisions, improve your self-awareness, or build stronger relationships. Choose something specific.
Practice small, intentional changes. Leadership growth doesn’t happen in dramatic moments—it happens in everyday choices. Pay attention to your habits and look for opportunities to apply what you’re working on.
Reflect on your progress. Keep track of your experiences, what you’re learning, and what still challenges you. Writing in a journal or having periodic check-ins with yourself can help you stay intentional about growth.
Engage others in the process. Growth happens faster when it’s social. Have conversations about leadership with friends, colleagues, or mentors. Learn from their perspectives, share your challenges, and refine your approach together.
And just like that, you’re already developing as a leader. No title needed. No waiting required. Whatif when moment comes that you do step into a position of power, you’re be ready to navigate it with integrity and grace?